Photo by Natalie Boutros.
By Natalie Boutros
As humans, we grow and evolve in life, and when we change how we present ourselves on the outside, it shows others how we wish to be perceived on the inside. Every person has their own unique sense of being, making every person’s self-expression different. One of the most fundamental ways to express yourself is through your unrepeatable style.
The dictionary definition of fashion is “a prevalent or popular custom or practice, esp. one which is characteristic of a particular place or time; (in later use) a fashionable or stylish trend.” But that is truly the definition of mainstream fashion. Identifying fashion as a style that must be “popular” or “trendy” is a dismissal of an individual’s distinctive likes and dislikes. Social media has given us the impression that if a certain type of style isn’t admired by all then it has no place in our lives.
For example, some say bright colors aren’t elegant and are too tacky, making others feel bad for enjoying their own preferences. This is not only overlooking people’s opinions but obligating that one’s opinion must be agreed upon by all. But that shouldn’t be true, because as long as you feel confident and comfortable in what you wear, you are fashionable.
Confidence is a vital part of having your own individuality. Constantly being worried about others’ judgment and expectations can be limiting. To embrace your true self, you must be willing to step outside your comfort zone and explore different styles without embarrassment.
Exploring different styles doesn’t necessarily mean you must stick to one either. You can pick one style, blend multiple together, or create your own and it still wouldn’t make you any less “fashionable.” Your clothing is a reflection of your lifestyle. You could see women wearing expensive bracelets and makeup because that’s what they can afford. You may also see numerous people shopping second-hand looking just as glamorous.
That’s because style isn’t about spending thousands of dollars to look like everyone else, it’s about spending a couple of dollars on a top that speaks to you on a personal level. Your taste in clothing will continue to expand as you grow and you will learn to adapt based on it. You’ll learn to accessorize, whether it’s adding a pair of gold earrings or adding a belt to match your purse. You’ll acquire the skill of knowing where to shop to find clothes that suit your needs. You’ll realize whether you prefer second-hand stores or name-brand clothing.
I, personally, have incorporated as much of myself into my clothing as I could because feeling at home in my body rather than as though I’m wearing a costume to fit in is very important to me. You must build a wardrobe that is authentic to you and only you. Your distinctive style should be an embodiment of your upbringing, interests, personality, creativity and who you are as a whole. Clothes were invented not only as a necessity but as a means to be expressive in a way that cannot be spoken aloud.
